The greatest ability in Bridge is to get along with others and influence their actions. A chip on the shoulder is too heavy a piece of baggage to carry thru life.
Bridge is such a difficult game to master. As declarer, make a habit of trying to picture one or both of the opponents' hand. This is done by taking inferences from their bidding, their leads, their carding and their discards. So pay attention to ALL the spot cards.
In a small club game, all declarers failed to make 10 tricks in spades on this layout :
After North balanced in 4th seat, South made an aggressive double of 3. South led the the K and continued the suit to North's ten.
Against South's 3NT, West leads the 5. When declarer plays low from dummy, how should East defend?
East-West could have bid an easy game in spades but East found himself in 5 after West made an attempt to reach slam. On the lie of the cards, East has a sure diamond loser and if declarer has to break open the heart suit, 2 other losers. However if the defense is forced to open up the heart suit, declarer can make two tricks in the suit. The heart suit is called a Frozen Suit because, whomever is forced to lead the suit first, loses.
At the best of times, bidding is difficult. When the opponents interfere, finding the right suit and the right level demands patience, discipline and cooperation.. This deal will serve to demonstrate how an auction can easily go off the rails.